Friday, April 13, 2012

Advice on Handling Irish Twins

I've got a newborn and an eighteen month old for the first time in nine years. I'm doing fine when we're at home. Yet just trying to get my newly expanded crew through Target now feels totally crazy.

Does anyone have any special tricks for handling a needy newborn and a crazy toddler in public?

15 comments:

  1. Even if you were just to say a crazy toddler in public...I might not be able to offer you any advice.

    Toddlers seriously go through a stage where it seems to me that they can not go to stores or out into public!!!

    If your first Irish twin was not with you...and, we know we never want this to be the case...you'd be able to handle it, no?

    Baby gets strapped in...all is well.

    Do you like online ordering?

    I find that I can write down the item numbers from my fav stores and now order things on line...

    Believe it or not KMART is the bomb when it comes to online ordering...over Wmart and Target, even.

    It practically gets to my house the next day and they rarely if ever charge me shipping.

    ANd, yet, I would never step foot in that store in person...with my two and half year old or not.

    Sorry, I know I am useless here in the advice dept.

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  2. Don't go out! Haha.. that's what I did when my Irish twins were really small ;) Even now I'll wait to run errands when my husband is home and I only take one (or none!) with me. I know that's not always an option though. If I am out with both and they are starting to get really bad, I usually give C my phone. It's great for those emergency situations where I really need to get something done and she's about to pitch a fit!

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  3. Get yourself a really good front and back carrier. I have a Beco Butterfly and LOVE it. It totally saved me in the early months, and I can still use it with him on my back for a couple more years, though (God-willing) there will be another baby in it soon...

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  4. Peapod! Or whatever home grocery service is in your area. Seriously. I did it for a two months when Joey was born in January. It saved my life. To me, it's the worth the extra 20 bucks or so.

    I just made a Target run today, thinking I could be done with Peapod. Nope! It was not fun. With the baby in his carrier in the basket of the cart and my 18 month old in the child seat, I had no where to put anything! I ended up getting only about a dozen things and leaving the store with a bunch of stuff I still needed but had nowhere to put. Back to peapod!

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  5. I'm training Hannah now to sit in her cart. LOL Thanks for the heads up! LOL

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  6. Our closest two kids are 14 months apart. I honestly just went out when my husband was home and took the baby. Also, we lived in an area at that time that delivered groceries. Big blessing. If you're oldest feels comfortable, perhaps she can take Tess. Can't remember how old she is. That way it's just the baby you've got to worry about. Or wear the baby. That helps. Bless you all. :-)

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  7. Our closest two kids are 14 months apart. I honestly just went out when my husband was home and took the baby. Also, we lived in an area at that time that delivered groceries. Big blessing. If you're oldest feels comfortable, perhaps she can take Tess. Can't remember how old she is. That way it's just the baby you've got to worry about. Or wear the baby. That helps. Bless you all. :-)

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  8. Thank you! You make me feel so much less inept.

    I had such a dramatic transformation. 39 weeks pregnancy and a toddler- not that hard. Then a newborn strapped to my chest with a toddler suddenly equaled impossible.

    I'm going to do more online ordering and only run errands when my husband is home.

    If I'm only leaving the house for fun trips during the day then I can exit when things start getting bad immediately.

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  9. I agree with Ally. Don't go out :o)

    And Hillary Rosen says that raising a family isn't work..

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  10. Abby, I have a Babyhawk from when Sonja was a newbie. You are more than welcome to it. She didn't like it much, but it's great for little ones because it has that little head support. I went all pink with her (wasn't sure if she was the last?) so it's pretty girl colors. :-). I have a MobyWrap too somewhere. That was so helpful.

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  11. I just read the last part about exiting. My husband used to have a funny saying when things got bad (because David was the toddler and had horrible sensory issues then). It would go from fine to "Oh my gosh!" in a very short amount of time. My husband would see my face and tell the kids, "Exit! Exit! Move move move!" LOL

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  12. Wear the baby and leash the toddler. I'm partial to the Bjorn Active (the one with the extra lumbar support), as I have tried slings and Mai Tai and Snuggly and found that my back just aches even after a short time. My babies just love being "worn" and only protest when hungry. Or when siblings are yanking on extremities. As for the leash... I used a harness that my MIL used on her sons, though these days I believe Target sells ones that look like a furry animal backpack.
    OR, I recall a friend telling me how she'd get through grocery shopping with her six kids: load the younger ones in a cart that the oldest two would push, while she would have another cart for the groceries. She said she'd get mean looks from people - mostly ones who nearly got run over by the kid cart - but she was able to get it done.

    However, waiting until the weekend so as to either have a husband babysitter or help in-store wrangler, or ordering online definitely appeal to me!

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  13. My boys are 15 months apart -- currently 22 months old and almost 7 months old. And my advice is: (1) You can do it! Though the first few times were tough, it's now second-nature. (2) Shop online. I buy all of my diapers, wipes, toilet paper, and most toiletries through Amazon's Subscribe and Save program. Great prices and convenience. (3) Minimize opportunities for mischief-making. That is, keep the toddler restrained at ALL times! ;) While grocery shopping or at Target, I wear the baby (I use an ErgoBaby) and strap the toddler into the grocery cart. Anywhere else in public I put the boys in a double stoller (We have the CityMini). Though I will put the toddler in a harness for a neighborhood walk, I'd never do it in a store. He'd be pulling things off the shelves and there's no way I could handle that with a baby on my chest.

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  14. Does somebody high jack your blog? Because there are always titles but NEVER any posts??? Odd

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  15. I have three three and under and am expecting baby4 soon. I don't have older ones to help. I live in a rural area where I am 85 miles from 'real' stores. I avoid going out by myself with the kiddos like the plague.
    The best advice I can give is to avoid going out if it's possible. You can get a free trial of Amazon Prime if you join the Amazon Moms club (free). I also do Sams Club Clickn'pull. They get my order ready so all I have to do is show up and pick it up. You can read about this here... http://www.womaninshoe.blogspot.com/2011/11/amazon-prime-amazon-mom-sams-click-n.html
    Please follow my blog... womaninshoe.blogspot.com I do sometimes post what I've learned about dealing with so many little ones.
    As an aside, I thought Irish twins were less than one year apart. Even my closest are 13 months.

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